Supper Conundrum 101

It often happens that I don’t know what to cook for supper. It doesn’t help that the fridge, the pantry and the freezer are not shabbily stocked. Too much choice is never a good concept with me. I get frazzled with ideas and end up contemplating take out. Now, St. John’s isn’t a take out haven. After rounding up the few choices I have, I start all over again and stand in front of the pantry shelves for unaccounted minutes.

I hear that I am not alone in this ‘I never know what to cook for supper’ conundrum. I often call my mother in India around 1 PM Newfoundland time to ask what Β I shall cook for supper. She used to laugh at me thinking it was a joke; then she quickly learnt it wasn’t. I had inherited her trait. Ma never knew what to cook for supper most days either. She still doesn’t. Dependant upon what everyone wants to eat when no one knows what they really want.

A usual conversation around super ideas end up this way:

“Ma, I don’t know what to cook for supper tonight.”

“Cook chicken.”

“Yes, but cook what with chicken?”

“You like roast, why don’t you make that.”

Naa, not in the mood.”

“Then don’t ask me.”

“Who else will I ask?”

“Ask Tony, he’s your husband. Cook what he likes to eat”

“Why would I always have to cook what he likes to eat? What about what I like to eat?”

“Then cook what you like to eat, and don’t ask me”

“Why does Tony get more attention than me? I am YOUR daughter!”

“Yes, but Tony is my jamai (son-in-law) and looking after my jamai is my first duty”

“Says who?”

“That’s what I have leant and thats what our culture says. Are you forgetting your culture?”

“Don’t get me started on culture. I haven’t forgotten my culture. Now, why do you think that?”

“Because you are acting that way. Bideshe’e giye shob bhule gecho tumi. (you have forgotten everything since you went to a foreign land)”

“Does my culture say that a mother should prefer her son-in-law’s wishes more than her own daughter’s?”

“In a way yes. When you were here I took care of you and now Tony takes care of you. As your parents we are indebted to him.”

“I’m not a baby that Tony has to take care of me, Ma. I can take care of myself pretty well.”

“You are acting like one, right now” “Boddo jhamela korish (you cause too much fuss) and stop arguing with me.”


Eventually after I get over arguing with my mother, I call Tony on the phone and ask,”What do you want for supper tonight?”

“Chicken, maybe?”

“What kind of chicken?”

“How about a roast?”

(I am wondering if all this is planned!)

And so I succumb.

Roast Chicken – Asian Style


  • Whole chicken for roast: About 2 1/2 – 3 lbs.
  • Dark soya sauce: 1/4 cup
  • Light soya sauce: 1/4 cup
  • Oyster sauce: 2 tbsp
  • Ginger: 2 inches diced
  • Star anise: 3
  • Cinnamon: 2 pieces 2 inches in size
  • All spice: Β 1 tbsp mostly whole with a few slightly crushed
  • Sesame oil: 1 tbsp
  • Red pepper flakes: 2 tsp
  • Sesame seeds: 1 tbsp toasted
  • Brown sugar: 3 tbsp
  • Scallions to garnish


  • Marinate the chicken in a roaster with all of the ingredients except the brown sugar, the sesame oil and the sesame seed overnight for best results or at least for an hour or two if you can.
  • Pe heat oven to 375 degrees F. Roast marinated chicken for 45 mins with cover. Baste the chicken with the marinade once or twice during this time. Then roast for another 30 mins without the cover.
  • Take the roasted chicken out and place it on your serving platter. Add the brown sugar and sesame oil to the left over juices in the pan and bring to boil for a few minutes. At this point the gravy will turn slightly thick. Take off burner and spoon over roasted chicken.
  • Garnish with toasted sesame seeds and diced scallions.
  • Serve hot or at room temperature.


39 thoughts on “Supper Conundrum 101

  1. I love this post! That roast chicken looks amazing (did it turn out to be what you felt like eating after all?), and it was reassuring to read about your supper conundrum. I get paralyzed by indecision– probably made worse by my too-well-stocked kitchen– sometimes too… I had a night like that this week where we actually DID get take-out (which I used to do all the time, but hadn’t done in maybe half a year) and I felt so guilty about it, I could barely enjoy it. But the next night, thanks to a nudge from my girlfriend, I was back in the kitchen cooking again… sometimes we just need a nudge from someone else– even better if your mother and your husband team up to do it! ; )

    • It’s an age old conundrum! Hahaha.
      My mother doesn’t speak a lot of English so my husband hardly gets to have a chat. They didn’t really conspire but fate did I guess! πŸ˜€
      Take out is good once in a while when we are so busy and tired and all that. But take out when there is everything in plenty is just shameful! Glad you agree with me.

  2. A beautiful post. I see you are in St. John’s. Is that the Newfoundland one? My youngest has gone there (if it is there) to study for the next few months. If she got fed as well as that, I would fret less.
    Have a great weekend,

    • Thank you Conor!
      Yes, St. John’s in Newfoundland. I think I remember you telling me one of yours was going too MUN, if I’m not mistaken. If she is living on campus she is sure to be fed well. Like I said not a whole lot of choices like other cities if she is looking for take out.
      Happy weekend!

  3. This looks absolutely delicious and a easy to make. It will make a nice change from the Jamaican style chicken which my mum taught me. I love trying recipes from other cultures.

  4. πŸ™‚ at your conversation. I used to have these with my maa, even when it was 2.30 at night there and I was calling SOS from here.. sigh. I am loving the flavors here.. and seeing familiarity in the ginger and soy sauce! Can’t believe we cooked this about the same time..well yours is richer and prettier than mine of course.

    Debjani, really appreciate your stopping by and your comment, and thanks a BIG, as it led me back to your beautiful blog. LOVE IT!

    • You have an amazingly beautiful blog yourself! I love your stories and your food and your photographs! Very few people can make fried gourd look stunning!
      And about that conversation with Ma, if she knew its floating in cyber space she will kill me! πŸ˜€

    • I love roast chicken as well…fresh out of oven is my total weakness! The marinade is a culmination of my love for Asian flavours and what I thought would go together. I do love it….a lot! Let me know what you think if you make it.

  5. oh tell me about it. I am always confused what to cook and asking the husband doesn’t help much. His common answer is ‘ kuch bhi’ ! And amader Ma der ke niye ki aar bolbo .. oder jamai oder mathai πŸ˜€

  6. Hello,

    We bumped into your blog and we really liked it – great recipes YUM YUM.
    We would like to add it to the

    We would be delighted if you could add your blog to Petitchef so that our users can, as us,
    enjoy your recipes.

    Petitchef is a french based Cooking recipes Portal. Several hundred Blogs are already members
    and benefit from their exposure on

    To add your site to the Petitchef family you can use or just go to and click on “Add your site”

    Best regards,

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s